Sunday, August 29, 2010

Tension Makes A Tangle

The one and only request I have for my funeral, when that day comes, is that this song be sung a capella immediately following the eulogy.

As strong hinges pivot On a case's door Commemorative Souvenirs from places Containers changed with each occasion The cellophane encased Displaying paper Certificate To credit years of service A tool of central enterprises The early hope For permanence The words the rings Consistency And Social security A miracle's high tragedy A thought mistaken for a memory Clear the dust From smiles in boxes Pass a patterned wall Recall their voices A local post will list your friends In order of disappearance Lawn scattered tins feed birds The portion baked For absent guests The mass edition icon God sent comfort Your salvation But who grants absolution For sins that never were committed Tension makes a tangle Of each thought becomes Inconvenience Sound never penetrates As servile edges break and feint A thought mistaken for a memory Dress lengths assassinations A fractured family tie Another christening
The music is by 10000 Maniacs; vocalist Natalie Merchant is said to have written the lyrics about childhood memories of her grandmother's house. If you like, you can listen to it on YouTube.

Monday, August 23, 2010

The Lonesome Death of Joseph Dywan

According to the Winona Daily Republican, the death of Malgorzata and Wawrzyniec Dywan's eldest son Joseph (1863-1893) became the talk of the town. Malgorzata was the younger sister of my great-great grandfater, Marcin Szymon Bambenek. These clippings are courtesy of the awesome WNP:

I think Malgorzata could be excused for losing it. First widowhood and, three years afterward, her oldest son drinking himself to death at age thirty. I am sure she had the support of her neighbors, and of her family. But having the whole story plastered all over the newspapers didn't help. And she had to have been wondering when the madness would stop.

Thursday, August 19, 2010

The Mysterious Dywan Family

Twenty years ago, my Uncle Jim and Aunt Phoebe Bambenek were good enough to spend a whole day carting me all around Trempealeau County, pointing things out and telling me stories about the good old days. I managed to get pretty much all of it down in my journal, too... everything except the part about the Dywan family. They were relatives on Grandpa Bambenek's side, a widow and her sons, one of whom (if I recall right) was really keen on drinking milk. "Dywan and milk." I can hear Uncle Jim saying it even now. But who on earth were these Dywans?
The family tree that Uncle Jim Bambenek and Aunt Frances Rettkowski drafted 25 years ago listed one Margareta Dywan as a sister of my great-grandfather Charles Bambenek. At St. Mary's Cemetery in Winona, there is the grave of Wawrzyniec (that's the Polish spelling of Lawrence) Dywan, who died on 17 October 1890, aged 56 years. The awesome Winona Newspaper Project shows no obituary for Wawrzyniec Dywan, but does record the deaths of Joseph (13 September 1893), Margaret (2 February 1922), John (6 December 1948), and Peter (18 June 1953) Dywan. The awesome WNP also records the extremely interesting circumstances accompanying Joseph's burial - but that has to be saved for a separate post. I suspected, but could not satisfactorily prove, that Wawrzyniec Dywan was the husband of Margaret Dywan (nee Bambenek). Wawrzyniec would have been eight years his wife's junior, but then, I'm married to a cradle robber too. And very happily so. The rest of my hypothetical timeline worked perfectly. Both John and Peter Dywan are mentioned as having come from Poland with their parents around 1875, which fits the time frame of the Kaszubian emigration.

Thanks to the Pomorskie Towarzystwo Genealogiczne (Pomeranian Genealogical Association), I was able to find in the records from Leśno (that is, the Bambeneks' ancestral stomping grounds) the 1832 baptism of Laurenz Dywan, son of Anton and Victoria Cyszewska Dywan. Granted, that is a couple of years off from the grave marker at St. Mary's, but things like birth dates are easy to misremember during the planning of a funeral. On the other hand, the Lesno records also show the 1827 baptism of Margaritha Bembenek, daughter of Blazej and Marianna Wielewska Bembenek. That checks out perfectly with the Winona Republican-Herald obituary. I think we have a match!